Friday, August 16th, 2013...10:07 am

Ask Jody: Budget Woes for Long Island Wedding

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Leigh and Jaime, Long Island

Q:  Hi, my fiance and I have been together seven years. The moment we met we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together but being students and lacking funds have prevented us from getting married.  He proposed two years ago and we can’t seem to find anything to fit our budget.  We have about 120 people. Do you have any suggestions?

A:  Many young couples on Long Island are in the same position.  Long Island is an extremely expensive place to get married. You haven’t said what your budget is, so it’s really hard to offer specific suggestions.  But ultimately it comes down to this:  what kind of wedding do you want to have and how important is it to you?   For example, if you have always dreamed of having a lavish wedding at a catering hall, complete with ball gown, entourage, live band, four-course dinner, etc. then there are ways to achieve this by finding a venue that isn’t over-the-top and cutting back on your guest list.   If you and your fiance are flexible, however, and willing to do away with some of the more traditional aspects of a typical wedding (have a buffet brunch instead of dinner, for example, or even better, just a cocktail reception), you’ll still be able to have a wonderful day.  So the first step in wedding planning is deciding on what kind of wedding you want to have.  Next, set the budget accordingly, and prioritize your desires.